Peer-to-Peer Process

We ask you to bring conflicts directly to the other person involved, if possible, with the goal of reaching common understanding and repair. This can be a powerful practice of upright speech, courage, and trust in sangha. If both parties agree, you may also ask a third sangha member to moderate the conversation.

We encourage you to follow the BZC Community Agreements during your conversation, perhaps even beginning by reading them aloud. We suggest that:

  • Each party approach with curiosity, openness, and assumption of good intent
  • Each party listen without interruption first, then restate what they’ve heard
  • Each party check for mutual understanding, and discuss possible steps to heal and move forward